Date of publication: 2017-08-30 00:51
Some men just have a addiction to porn no matter how much the wife is doing,so if the husband is addicted to alcohol I suppose that is the wife 8767 s fault as well..get over yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have even been complicit in the per perpetuation of the addiction with the gift of an e-reader. I used the occcasion to try and establish ground rules on the reading which appeared to work for a short time. It is now much worse.
Porn addiction is a real phenomenon today. Many men, and an increasing percentage of women, are finding themselves helpless in the face of Internet temptations. After years of porn viewing, often starting at a age, what started as a curiosity became a pattern, which became a habit, which became a compulsion.
If i were you I would demand he attend this workshop for men. Its hard for men to admit they have a problem and this one brings much shame. Please check out Every Man 8767 s Battle workshop
On the other end of the spectrum, some men entrenched in porn want to act out their fantasies in the real world. Porn films often pair physical and verbal aggression with sex. This might mean that your husband is surprisingly demanding during sex—even getting frustrated when you don 8767 t perform to his exact specifications. Some men show a sudden interest in 8775 rough 8776 sex or sexual activities you haven 8767 t discussed and agreed to. Others will begin to show an interest in bondage, fetishes, sadomasochism, group sex, or activities that make you feel belittled and used. These are huge red flags and one of the clear signs of porn addiction.
Porn use can escalate in various ways, especially if he is experiencing some erectile dysfunction, and it is true that users become less sensitive to all kinds of material. The most commonly watched porn today is very violent and degrading to women. Once that becomes 8775 normal, 8776 you need increasingly provocative images to provide the chemical high you 8767 re after. It may or may not be an indicator of sexual identity issues.
Meanwhile, I think you need a counselor just for YOU , to help you process your emotions and build healthy boundaries. Make sure that you get help that is helpful to YOU! So many times I hear from women that their husbands have gotten all the support while the wife has gotten almost no help at all personally for the grief and trauma of such a discovery. Don 8767 t be that story! Take care of YOU!
I 8767 m sure that after four years you 8767 ve already learned that you can 8767 t force him to make healthy choices. And that leaves you in a difficult position.
In simple terms, you’re “not enough” because his repeated porn use has vastly accelerated his tolerance for these chemical rushes, far beyond the levels of monogamous sex with you. In particular, pornography has trained him to be turned on by variety, which no single woman can provide. It also explains why he may have turned to harder porn or acted out through an affair—he’s looking for the rush that you, through no fault of your own, can never provide.
I 8767 m sorry but that is bs. My husband is battling a porn addiction that he has been dealing with since we 8767 ll before we met. My husband does love me. Very deeply. But the issue is chemical and we are overcoming it together. I do not out excess control over him, but I do have standards. It isn 8767 t right or fair to place the blame on wives all the time. I keep fit, I 8767 m 8775 good in bed 8776 , and he has been struggling with addiction regardless.
Your husband absolutely is capable of recovery so many men have proven that! But, it will be up to him to make those healthy choices, and meanwhile, you 8767 ve got to decide what 8767 s healthy for you.